wittingly: (Oɴʟʏ ғᴏᴏʟs ʀᴜsʜ ɪɴ)
ɪᴀɴ ғᴏᴡʟᴇʀ ([personal profile] wittingly) wrote in [personal profile] evocation 2020-12-20 04:36 am (UTC)

what I mean is

sometimes you don't have to put a label on something and confine it to a box, you don't have to have these rigid structures and definitions

two people can feel the same thing and enjoy spending time together and enjoy having sex with each other and have a mutual understanding that they care for one another, and that's enough, it doesn't have to be more complicated than that, not for a long while, not until (or if) it feels right

like

you don't have to update your facebook status to 'in a relationship' and require a nightly check-in and call each other boyfriend girlfriend and live under the constant ticking time clock of relationship milestones, like oh we've been dating for six months time to move in together, we've been together two years time to get married

it doesn't really have to be like that

you just kind of have to ask yourself

do you enjoy spending time with them
do you want to have sex with them
do you feel that Thing that differentiates romantic from platonic

and if so
there you go






also I'm like super duper sure you'd freak out if he used the D word on you too, or the term Dating came up at all, so just
ignore it entirely and go with the flow for a while

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