[He thinks, initially, this is an easy question to answer, and then he realizes it isn't; Lance usually uses this particular method for conversations with friends too, but although it works it might not be exactly normal. He had never spoken to anyone about his problems before his parents had put him in therapy, and so he'd learned professional strategies far before casual, interpersonal ones.
But he is absolutely not about to explain any of that, so instead he quickly puts together some semblance of a reasonable answer.]
Sometimes it can just come up naturally in conversation, and instead of deflecting away from a difficult topic you can decide to talk about it.
[A suggestion which feels especially hypocritical at the moment, but whatever. He let Kyna get away with deflecting earlier, so it's only fair, right? Right. It totally works that way.]
Otherwise, you can just ask a friend if you can talk to them about something, like you would about any serious topic. But in that case it's also usually best to make it clear what sort of response you want from them, whether you want advice, sympathy, just someone to listen to you put your feelings into words, or something else.
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But he is absolutely not about to explain any of that, so instead he quickly puts together some semblance of a reasonable answer.]
Sometimes it can just come up naturally in conversation, and instead of deflecting away from a difficult topic you can decide to talk about it.
[A suggestion which feels especially hypocritical at the moment, but whatever. He let Kyna get away with deflecting earlier, so it's only fair, right? Right. It totally works that way.]
Otherwise, you can just ask a friend if you can talk to them about something, like you would about any serious topic. But in that case it's also usually best to make it clear what sort of response you want from them, whether you want advice, sympathy, just someone to listen to you put your feelings into words, or something else.