[This is easier said than done, and he tries to figure out an example that works and he can give without needing a lot of backstory or getting into subjects he doesn't want to. He and Brennan don't really discuss feelings--other than advice when asked for, or during his attempts to help her and Booth sort out their relationship--precisely because Brennan isn't good at it and Lance has known that from the beginning.]
She and I usually avoid having talks for this exact reason, which doesn't exactly help when something does come up. I guess an example would be that we had a case that brought up a lot of feelings for both of us, and we both knew that was what was going on with each other, but we disagreed on how to handle the situation. Since we couldn't actually communicate about it directly--she wouldn't talk about the underlying problem at all, and I wasn't exactly doing the best job either--we both got so frustrated with each other that we ended up barely speaking the rest of the day.
[He definitely could've done a better job dealing with this on his side, so it's not just Brennan's fault or anything, but where he'd been alluding to things and even outright stating some she'd basically just walled off entirely in terms of communication.]
But we'd known each other for a few years by that point, and she changed the way she was dealing with the case, so I could tell she'd understood even if she wouldn't talk about it. We ended up just kind of letting the conflict go, though we didn't actually resolve it.
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She and I usually avoid having talks for this exact reason, which doesn't exactly help when something does come up. I guess an example would be that we had a case that brought up a lot of feelings for both of us, and we both knew that was what was going on with each other, but we disagreed on how to handle the situation. Since we couldn't actually communicate about it directly--she wouldn't talk about the underlying problem at all, and I wasn't exactly doing the best job either--we both got so frustrated with each other that we ended up barely speaking the rest of the day.
[He definitely could've done a better job dealing with this on his side, so it's not just Brennan's fault or anything, but where he'd been alluding to things and even outright stating some she'd basically just walled off entirely in terms of communication.]
But we'd known each other for a few years by that point, and she changed the way she was dealing with the case, so I could tell she'd understood even if she wouldn't talk about it. We ended up just kind of letting the conflict go, though we didn't actually resolve it.
[Which tends to be the case with them.]